Books


In Quest Of The Mythical Mate   by Ellyn Bader and Peter T. Pearson

Passionate Marriage   by David Schnarch

Intimacy & Desire: Awaken the Passion in your Marriage   by David Schnarch

Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage   by John Gottman

Forgive for Good   by Fred Luskin

The Anatomy of Hope: How People Prevail in the Face of Illness   by Jerome Groopman 

A General Theory of Love   by Thomas Lewis, Richard Lannon and Fari Amini

How We Choose To Be Happy   by Rick Foster and Greg Hicks


         Articles of Interest

               How Therapy Can Be Hazardous To Your Marital Health by William Doherty

             This article explores the powerful role couples therapists play in influencing their clients' decisions about their relationship.

             What Shamu Taught Me About A Happy Marriage by Amy Sutherland

               A humorous piece about marriage and the tricks of the trade that animal trainers use to influence behavior.

             Recession Survival For Couples by Michael Radkowsky

            
An article written by a colleague who does couples counseling in Washington, DC

             Shame
by Robert Karen

             T
his Atlantic Monthly article (Jan. 1992) explores the difference between shame and guilt, and suggests that unexamined shame
            
may be the 'preeminent cause of emotional distress in our time'.

             Understanding The Anxious Mind by Robin Marantz Henig

             An article that examines longitudinal research regarding the neurology of anxiety.


                What Brain Scans Can Tell Us About Marriage by Tara Parker-Pope               

               A literal glimpse into the "inner" workings of long-married couples.


       



          Other Resources

                 The Monty Python Argument Clinic

                 This hilarious video will make you think twice about how you argue!


Winifred M. Reilly, M.A., MFT, Berkeley, CA • (510) 528-0802

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